Well I won't go into the "back story" as to what got me to where I am, as most of you all know that my little one (my shadow) has cancer, and can see the original post "damn, life has dropped me", but what I am trying to do here is maybe find a fit/ or in shape person that can give me some REALISTIC/ no gimmicks guidance.
With the situation that has unfolded with my baby girl, it has obviously put quite a bit of stress/sleeplessness/eating absolutely unhealthy, and here I am from a decent 205, to pushing about 245lbs. And that 245 is despite from (before all this) AT LEAST a six pack a day too, not a beer in 2 months!!!!
May 1st., the day we found out what was happening to her, and thru the following week, I dropped about 15 pounds from,... getting emotionally sick and puking constantly from the unbelief of what was happening, ( I compare it to, like in the movies when a person finds out a loved one has died, they get sick and throw up??) I was throwing up constantly!!, I had no appetite, and other than NoDoz, and Monster/RockStars, to keep me going while traveling back an forth to work at 4:00am, to the hospital, keeping shit up at the house, and dealing with all the other obstacles in life, I didn't consume anything actual food wise,  for about 15 days or so.
NOW, about 2 months later, with basically living at the hospital, not eating good and correctly, and not having my wife cook dinner, and us on a "normal" regular schedule, I am at a chunky 245lbs!!!
I am wondering if someone here has a regiment they can pass on to me and say " mix this stuff together" eat this, this, and this, and do these exercises, and you will be "healthy" again.
I'm not looking to become the next Mr. Universe, or bench press 350lbs. I just need a little"guidance" to what to do, versus going to a supplements store/ health store/ gymn, that their focus is to SELL ME as much quick cure-alls as possible.
I'm NOT opposed to supplements, or health food stuff IF IT WORKS, but I went to a supplements store today, and saw 1000 different bottles of ""the cure to all my problems"" ha and just turned around and walked out dissapointed and ashamed!

Thanks, Ken

In consideration of your hectic schedule, all the energy drinks and stuff probably helps you keep truckin along. So it would be hard to cut all that I'm sure. But to be honest, I don't know what or how you eat. But meal portions and the right food makes a big difference. For instance, stay away from soda,  energy drinks, fried foods, obviously fast food etc.. start eating chicken and vegetables and greens. Pack nuts with your lunch. Even the "good" food for you can be "bad" If you portion/prepare it wrong. A lot of people complain about healthy foods being limited and tastless. Which can be true. But you'll be surprised how many meals you can create out of a lot of healthy foods. If I were you, start walking/running your neighborhood or go hiking somewhere. Find out what suits you best and then keep a routine. Switch it up every now and again. Keep it interesting and something to look forward too, while at the same time slowly start kicking some of the unhealthy habits,  and you should start seeing results. I would try that before you go out and buy 500.00 worth of supplements. But there's some good supplements out there that will help with what your doing.  Next time your in the nutrition shop, talk to them. They will be all about telling you what additives will help. It's all in yourself though man. Your only gonna see results if YOU really want it. Just cause you take supplements doesn't mean it's gonna do the work for you, it's supposed to help boost you as you exercise and take care of your end of the deal.

I used to weigh 240 lbs and lost 70 lbs in 9 months. Most people thought I dropped too much cause I'm 6'1 and some change. No supplements needed in my opinion. This is how I did it...Most people don't believe me when I tell them but here it goes.

First things first my buddy lost 120 lbs in 10 months bu simply eating 6 palm sized portions a day. 6 times a week. Always have a cheat day where you eat whatever you want in a week. Your body requires the bad carbs and fats. Again, 6 palm sized portions per day every 2 hrs. Keeps your metabolism going.

Now I didn't like the way my buddy looked after dropping 120 lbs in 10 months with all the extra skin so that's why I added the one cheat day in a week so I wouldn't lose the weight that quick and believe it or not added a work out routine anybody has time for. P90x. 1 hr per day 5 times a week.

70 lbs in 9 months and I looked fit.

And by 6 palm sized portions per day i don't mean get a double cheeseburger cut it in half and eat each half every 2 hrs...simple nutrition adjustments have to made. Think healthy bud. Instead of red meat eat chicken, not fried! Instead of fries have fried zucchini. Instead of a Cesar salad have a tuna salad.

Beer is a no go. If you like to cop a buzz have hard liquor straight. I know that sounds like a bad advise but that's how I dealt with my "drinking problem" and my weight lol.  Small adjustments go a long way. You stick to those simple guide lines you'll watch the pounds melt.

General lee, I'm a 2 finger typer, so I was typing you the question while at the same time you were answering it! Ha ha.
Liquor over beer, I've got no problem with that, I'm an avid Everclear connisouer.
But to me the sugars, and yeasts in hard liquor seem worse than the light beer??
But I'm no expert, I'm just a drinker!? I'm actually trying to taper off any booze altogether, or at least tone it done quite a bit.
Thanks for the advice.

Thanks "PEEPS" WTF IS THAT ?

 I typed "Thanks Guys" on this iPad, and it put "Thanks PEEPS" !!!!

Jeezus!

That is alot to comprehend...plain an simple try to eat healthy no snacking ie soda, chips, candy, fried food, then work on your work out routine. 80% of losing weight is eating rite..look it up.

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Have you tried grief consoling. The stress and lack of sleep are the two biggest problems you face and will keep you from being healthy. Plus if you don't get a handle on it you will start to get sick. Stress and lack of sleep weakens your immune system and you wont be 100% to take care of your daughter. If you don't feel comfortable with the consolers at the treatment center I have a friend in Lake Elsinore that is really good and has delt with personal grief with his own life. 

Well here I am, and this is another issue, I flat out CANT SLEEP!! All the shit that's happening to my little girl, just non stop races thru my head, and I have to get up at 4:00am to get to work. I sure the sleep,deprivation isn't helping, but man it just happens.

Ridindirty, I'm in for the long haul, just need a path put in front of me to follow, thanks

GT, it's what I DO want to hear, you've gone thru some shit too!! No need for comparison, whether mines worse or not, shit that happens to family, especially, innocent little ones, just plain ******* SUCKS!! The package... Hell at your leisure, the fact you are doing that means a lot, and --> ME <-- a hero, aw hell no, my little girl is the hero, she is stronger than me, I HAVE curled up into that ball you mentioned, and cried. I'm no hero, just a guy who loves things mechanical, and my family, thanks my friend.

General lee, I'm gonna try that, but you say 6 palm sized portions, every 2 hours, WHAT is it that your eating? Meat, vegetables, dairy, etc??
I got a goodwill copy of that P90X, but honestly haven't tried it, because just figured it was another "gimmick", but if you use it and you say it works, I'll give it a try.
Thanks peeps!!!

If you need a good explanation of how the, not going to call it diet, works call or text me. 9517196641  Bemko. I'd type it all out bud but unfortunately I'm hardly at a computer so I always post from my phone and it would take me all day long. That P90X is not a gimmick believe me. Actually works.

X2...not to mention once you hit 30+ it's not a diet anymore it's supposed to be a lifestyle.

That's exactly what it is.
It literally it's reprogramming your entire mind set.
Otherwise you will struggle.

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Mash on it: hate to say it but that's your problem. If you think you can't do something then you can't. Anybody can do something they put their mind and effort to!!! Just my opinion. Not trying to start shit

The first week sucks but hey if you have the will to do something, anything can be accomplished even if your a rookie. It's how bad you want it and the whole 30 is the RIGHT/HEALTHY way of doing it. And after the 30 days you adjust slightly but keep the key fundamentals of eating right in your life.

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Mash on it: hate to say it but that's your problem. If you think you can't do something then you can't. Anybody can do something they put their mind and effort to!!! Just my opinion. Not trying to start shit

The first week sucks but hey if you have the will to do something, anything can be accomplished even if your a rookie. It's how bad you want it and the whole 30 is the RIGHT/HEALTHY way of doing it. And after the 30 days you adjust slightly but keep the key fundamentals of eating right in your life.

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X3 That!! My wife and I just finished the 30 day challenge (whole30) and it has definitely been a lifestyle changer for us! Ill admit that it was super hard (day 4 no carbs= I wanted to kill someone!) but towards the end you find that you really dont miss any of that crap anymore.

We now do about a 75/25, meaning 75% of our diet we follow the whole30. The only thing we really went back to was alcohol and cheese. Its kinda funny that now I prefer my cheeseburgers and sandwiches wrapped in lettuce, bread tastes like cardboard!

Mash on it: that is awesome you have lost that much weight. That's a big accomplishment and I am glad you didn't let yourself fail.

 Now with the Whole 30, I am speaking from experience, I have had many co workers go from eating shitty ass food and being severely over weight and jumped right into the whole 30 and do great on it and they still continue today eating healthy. Like I said I am not taking crap on you what so ever just saying that you can succeed in anything you put your mind too. Obviously there are other things you need to check first before going full speed into working out or drastically changing your diet, go to the doctors and get a physical.

Ken also try the home workout called The Rack. You can get it at Target. It's a 90 day program and tells you exactly what to do each day and gives you a 90 day eating plan as well. I saw a big change in my physique and eating habits

Again, this doesn't work for everybody but if you dedicated into changing your life, u CAN do it with a little bit of hard work

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