why not explain the situation or is it jus general. when people flake on me, that is the last time they get invited and i become a dick to them. also they are the ones missin out on the fun..and if you know the people i am a dick to jus ask them how much of a dick i am.. i have always figured that if your not a man of your word then what are you.. of course there are exceptions-ie: sick, kids get hurt, breakdowns etc. u get the picture..