thanks for the replies!!
i've played alot with the diverter.. I can find a point where it will ride pretty good in small chop.. unfortunately, i had to go the hydrolic diverter route so i have to 're-find' the spot every time.. I dont have full length runners to bolt a manual handle too.. it can be a pain in the a$$ find the perfect spot sometimes..
at lower speeds it's not bad when the diverter is positioned right.. I think my problem is the boat want's to porpoise a little at high speed and chop amplifies the problem.. it's hard to explain.. in smooth water, ripples or very small chop it rides like a champ.. but, when it get a little rough is where i have problems.. i mainly go to Parker, not even about to attempt Havasu chop in my dingy next to the ships out there 
it's almost like when i cut through a couple wakes, the boat wants to lift a touch and slam in between the waves instead of riding through to the next one coming.. i'm thinking if there was a ride plate, the 'slam' affect would calm down and feel like (small chop, chop, chop) because the boat is still riding on the water further back on the hull (ride plate) until i cross the next wake/wave/whoop.. (not sure if that made sense
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I used the counting method for repeatable settings (all the way down and count how long I pressed the "up" button) still hated the hydraulic though, these problems ar a major MOFO toget a handle on.
Stupid question #1

Have you tried putting some weight in the bow? Try like 80# under the deck....
Stupid question #2 Does the boat porpose, or just ride rough in chop? big difference, a porpose will never really correct when you leave the choppy water....
Stupid question #3 At what speed does it start to pound your ass up to your throat?

lower or say just cruising speed?...
A droop will make it easier to drive at speed and may make it more stable, but that may make her dance more...

A ride plate makes the boat feel bigger (longer) and would IMO give a pretty good return on the investment, though not a simple bolt on by any stretch, does afford some more adjustability...

Trim tabs will work, cav. plates even better, but I don't think they would be required (could be used in conjunction with the ride plate and the boat would ride like a bigger boat) and again, more adjustability...
Does the engine vary the RPM when it gets wierd? do you have a loader grate? (Stupid questions 4 and 5)
GT