Texted a couple of you on this. Been this late tonight dealing with him (rather CONVINCING him) that he is safe.

My Son loved the 21' Beezer as you all know, and you all know what happened to it. Was hard telling him, when he came back home, but he seemd to take it OK. Even joked about it and let me take his picture sticking his face into the blower that's on my kitchen counter going on "His" boat that Terry and I are building. (That was a week ago).

Tonight when I got home he was almost in tears knowing what I was building, not withstanding the other hardware that is going to be quickly underway here in the next two days that he has seen. This will be my first BBC Jet, and yeah, gonna blow it too! Done tripping over it. Anyway, he truly seems scared and won't tell me why. Just that he HATES boats.

Apparently I have scared him BADLY enough with either the HP or the bad driving, or both. I would assume the latter, but I've gotten much better, hopefully some of you can attest. I hope the burning boat is not why.

Yes, I'm about to toss 2 superchargers on two different boats, that will be thoroughly gone through, I am also, at the same time, tossing in a STD marine 460 into the Yellow Sub, with minor upgrades, that I cannot convince him is basically the same hull that the Blue Beezer had and should drive easily the same, even though it's only 18' vs 21'. I had no idea the kid was this scared of this stuff until now.


Ray

PS I think it's more underlying than this, what with Cindy dying, and what might seem to him to be me trying to die, I dunno. Might be more to this than the boats. Where he started out loving working on them and maintaining them has become a quagmire for me.

Ray -- Follow Skip's advice.   Now not later 

These things work out in the end.   You will speed the process with a little professional griefcounseling.

Now counseling for that disease you got (Horsepower Derangement Syndrome) ain't gonna help.   For that, the only cure is gonna be an organ transplant.
You know the kind where a blown Ford comes out and an Oldsmobile goes in   LOL

Ray
I know your pain all to well. I am a few months ahead of you and the kids as mine happened in July. My daughter who was 4 at the time and since has turned five is still having a hard time with it all. For the first 5-6 months i could not walk outside without her screaming and crying as she felt i was not going to com back. She thinks er mother died outside and not in the house. This is something that she created not me. I have always been upfront and honest with her about her mother from day one as cold as it sounds i did not sugar coat it and told her that mom was in heaven and she was never coming back and that things would be different from now on. She will talk at times about her mom like remember when ...... It is still hard and I struggle at times myself but i have found that therapy does help her a bit. we are in a program here locally that is set up just for this it is kid driven to help them deal with the loss of a parent.
Like it has been said before you know but sometimes it is good to hear it from other to confirm your thoughts.
He will deal with it on his terms and you can not make him do anything realted to this that he does not want to. It is a long road ahead of both of us and it has it's ups and downs. I never force the issue but when she does want to talk about her mom i drop whatever i am doing and listen. I have even left work to drive home and talk to her as she called crying for her mom.
Him not talking about her is not healthy i do not know if there are prorams in your area like we have here but that seems to help Rylee. She can talk to other kids her age in the same boat (no pun intended) and we know it is easier talking to our peers than our folks about stuff like this

Stuart

He'll be ahight. Just tell him he's GOT to have them kevlar shorts before his first race.

Now THAT"S what I call THERAPY  Ray-dog !!!


That motor would sure look good in my boat wouldn't it?       Hmmmmm

Call me in two weeks when you are ready to move onto another project OK?

What's wrong with the twisties? 

Ray

Blower = Zoomies

The Zoomies were kinda earmarked for another dealio y'know.  But they make more every day! The noise police are NOT gonna like dry zoomies around here methinks!

Next long weekends are the end of the month, the Blythe trip, then Labor Day weekend.

Next Boat Drags at Firebird are Nov 19-20.

It'll come together. Have a feeling what's wrong with it, and it's not gonna be pretty, just hope the 512 block is ok. I think the guy just tossed the blower onto the thing not knowing what compression was in it! not good, but he said it was still running and carrying oil pressure when he trailered it, but sounded like a rod knocking by the time he got it back to the marina.

Hopefully someone doesn't show up with the cash before I get out there tomorrow with the greenbacks! I doubt it will. This things further out there than the "other" speshul Chebbie engine I bought was!

Ray

Damn that boat's pretty Nick.